6 Ways Realtors Know If Couples Will Break Up – East Village – New York
MANHATTAN — Two yoga instructors planning to move in together got into an argument when they saw the $3,500-a-month two-bedroom apartment in the East Village realtor Eydie Saleh showed them.
Saleh knew they wouldn’t last.
“It was clear they didn’t get along,” said Saleh of Mirador Real Estate. “He was a little condescending in the way he spoke to her. I could see she was getting more and more frustrated.”
Agents have access to a lot of personal information when working with house hunters. In addition to scrutinizing their financial lives, brokers are often unwitting observers of how couples make important and intimate decisions. Because of this, many believe they have become adept at predicting whether a couple will pull through.
Saleh’s assessment was correct.
The yoga teachers parted ways days after starting their joint apartment search. Then Saleh found the woman a small studio nearby for $1,375 a month.
“She was happy,” Saleh said.
Here’s what brokers look for when determining whether a couple’s foundation is weak or strong:
1. Is the couple looking for a studio?
Two people confined in a very small space? It won’t work, said Jennifer Restivo Evans of Mirador Real Estate. Such an arrangement “can test the patience of any couple.”
“You are adults,” said Evans. “Get real.”
On the other hand, Evans recently worked with a woman who moved out of the apartment she shared with her longtime boyfriend. She got her own studio for “a little more alone time” since she had never lived alone and thought the experience would help strengthen their relationship. The couple plan to get married and were so optimistic about the experience that the boyfriend acted as a surety for the woman in the apartment, Evans noted.
2. Are they united?
Some moments of kindness between couples have warmed the hearts of brokers.
Corcoran’s Karen Talbott was showing houses in Brooklyn Heights to a couple who had been married for nine months. When the wife was momentarily out of earshot, the husband whispered to Talbott, “Whatever she wants, we’ll buy it.” If you see it light up, let me know.
When the husband walked away, the wife asked Talbott, “Do you think he likes anything? I just want him to be happy.”
A few weeks later, they both responded positively to a newly built condo with a water view and struck a “transparent deal,” Talbott said.
3. Do both really do you want to be in New York?
It’s very telling when one person in the couple is committed to being in New York and the other is unhappy with the move.
Warning signs were apparent when Cecil Weeks, an agent for Miron Properties, helped find a rental for a British couple in Frank Gehry’s posh 8 Spruce Street.
The man was transferred here for work; the woman was leaving her career, friends and family in London and “clearly wasn’t happy even though they were being shown ‘stellar properties'”.
They were among the first occupants of the new tower and one night when her husband was on his way to work, the doorman joked with the woman that she was the only person sleeping in the 77-story building.
“She was alone in an empty super tower in a town she didn’t really want to be in,” Weeks said.
They separated about 18 months later and she moved back to London. The man again worked with Weeks to find another apartment at the end of his lease.
4. What does half of the couple think of the other half’s pet?
If there’s a pet involved and one member of the couple doesn’t like the other’s Fido or Fluffy, chances are the relationship is doomed, multiple brokers have said. .
It also goes the other way. When the half of the couple that doesn’t own pets kisses the other’s pet, it’s often a sign of a strong union.
Julie Park of The Level Group told the story of one particularly strong couple she worked with. The husband, looking for a home while his wife was at Harvard Law School, found the TriBeCa loft of his “dreams”. He thought his wife would love him too, so he made an offer, which was accepted.
There was no sign of cats at the exhibit, but the woman, who has a severe allergy to cats, sensed their presence when she visited for inspection.
“We had to rush her down the stairwell and almost give her an EpiPen,” Park said. “You could tell by his reaction that even doing remediation wouldn’t be enough, and the husband knew that.”
He easily let go of the $1.6 million apartment to make his wife happy. They then found something more appropriate in NoMad, Park noted.
5. Do they go to screenings together and compromise effectively?
When someone in a couple looks at the space on their own, it’s sometimes a red flag, some brokers said.
“When your client’s ‘relative’ is never present during apartment viewings, including signing the lease, talk about being ‘unavailable,'” Mirador said. Aramis Arjona.
Then there are the couples who collaborate well, the brokers said.
A couple, for example, who visited more than 20 properties in one day were able to make a quick compromise even if the man wanted to live downtown and the woman wanted the Upper East Side, said Kateryna Rybka, of Miron. Properties.
“Instead of being bored or anxious, they talked about it and made the quick decision together to move downtown just hours after seeing one of the properties,” she said.
6. Are they living beyond their means?
Housing is expensive in New York. Economists tend to view rent as a burden if it makes up more than a third of a household’s income, and when some couples sign leases for something that stretches them, it can be a stressor on their relationship, the brokers said.
Park helped a married couple find an upscale rental about a year ago. Although he reached them financially, the husband didn’t “peep”, deferring to the wife, who was “the boss”, Park said.
“They signed a two-year lease, moved into their very expensive furniture, and even hung a chandelier in the unit,” Park said. “But after the first year, almost to the day, both of them emailed me simultaneously and without each other’s knowledge about breaking the lease.”
The months-long double match was stressful for Park who had to play a “bit of a therapist” and then “referee towards the end” when they argued over the security deposit.
“Some people are committed to a certain lifestyle and will do anything to maintain it, even if it’s financially draining them,” Park said. “My mum calls it ‘the taste of champagne but a wallet of beer’.”